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Friday’s Feats and Fails

Wahoo it’s the weekend! It’s my favorite day of the week as it’s also my Captain’s best day as he’s much more relaxed when he comes home from school. It’s been a long week that’s felt like more than a month! So I’ll do my best to give you hi-lights and the low lights.

FEAT

As a family we start every Friday out with a movie, popcorn and cuddles. Can you see why it’s my favorite day? I love to hear my kids chatting, making each other laugh, and the things that they come up with to entertain me and each other. I managed to get through a movie without falling asleep and getting both kids to bed. And we were all organized because the Captain had his hockey bag packed and ready to go at the front door. I love that he’s so excited to go play instead of fighting me just to leave the house. 😊

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FAIL

Hockey was a smooth day minus one hiccup. My Mad dog doesn’t want to sit still and with his sensory condition he just can’t unless there’s a IPad game, or something vibrating and flashing to keep his interest. We were sitting in the arena and he was getting antsy and didn’t want anything to do with the bag of toys I brought him. So he was bored and stimming (seeking sensory input). This is when he gets mouthing and biting so as to get instant input. Well he started licking the hand rail and a young girl walked by. I went to grab his hands and lead him away, but that’s no possible when he’s screaming. This girl came up to me and said “he’s licking the pole, I replied yes I know. ” Her response was what’s wrong with your kid?” This stung me right to the core, so I replied “he has a sensory condition, no big deal.” She began to laugh and I told her keep on walking. I didn’t handle it calmly, I tried but it just hit me in the heart.

FEAT

We had a successful hockey weekend, but traveling together always seems to make my kids even more sensory. So I have the laptop charged playing movies, iPad and the V-tab when sharing the laptop isn’t feasible. Mad dog was very successful with his potty training and I’m so proud of his accomplishment. The Captain won both his games and we ended up running into my brother in-law and sister in-law before left a hockey game. It was such an amazing reunion as we hadn’t seen them in seventeen years. Living at the other ends of each province will do that. As well as being hockey parents that will bring you together for the sport, or keep you on the road every weekend away from everyone.

FAIL

Monday was a difficult day I had Dr’s appointments for my kids with a new Pediatrician. Since it was an assessment the visits were lengthy while I answered questionnaires. My husband came with the Captain while I went in with the Mad dog. He was very agitated and didn’t want to have anything to do with the Dr. I had prepared him with a social story and did his OT exercises beforehand. But when he’s uncomfortable it doesn’t matter what I do to accommodate him. He started to get antsy and my husband and I tag teamed off and he took him home, and I took the Captain. This is where it got difficult as the Pediatrician was very thorough and wants Maddox assessed for ASD and OCD. Hearing those letters made my head swim as she read out her report. It was hard to hear and even harder to talk about my Captain and his anger and anxiety issues. He was bored, angry, and disrespectful. And I understood why, it was difficult for both of us. He will be assessed for ADHD and ODD. My heart breaks for my sons having to struggle, but labels and letters equal help for them so I’m accepting that one day at a time. ❤️

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*Image used with permission from http://www.sharingwithshari.com*

FEAT

I heard a brilliant guest speaker at my support group and he talked about the risk factors of addiction. And also how they correlate to an an ADHD diagnosis. This psychologist was so amazing, thorough, and interesting with his approach I was able to see everything I had encountered in my life in the past six years more clearly. My Captain was also able to articulate how he was feeling when I talked to him about getting help for his anger and anxiety. He doesn’t want to be bullied anymore so he won’t wear headphones in the classroom. But he said he’d try them at home, and he wishes he could stop his brain from saying stupid things. I reassured him it’s never his fault, and we all need to be kinder in our family. 💖

FAIL

With all the changes with Dr’s appointments and my stress levels my Mad dog has slipped in his potty training. I blame myself as I’ve been preoccupied with scheduling more appointments, applying for funding, and researching. Life has been topsy turvy with Mercury in retrograde so there’s always a few more curveballs to dodge. I found out I didn’t have health insurance from either province and I was just sick when I was told my Ped Dr visits were $300!!! Of course I had a few family Dr’s visits as well so color me embarrassed. 😳 I also had to apologize for getting frustrated and letting my feelings get the best of me. Luckily the receptionist could see a tired, overwhelmed Mom and they didn’t charge me a cancellation fee. I really appreciated that and assured them I’d be back with my Health insurance.

FEAT

After applying for health insurance for the third time our claim was processed and we got our Heath care numbers to use immediately. And our coverage will be retroactive from October 1 st. All it took was a trip into the city, an understanding insurance agent, and ID and boom problem solved. 😃
So now here we are going into the weekend and it’s hockey time again. I’m way ahead of the game as laundry is all caught up with one load in the dryer to be folded tomorrow. Ha take that laundry you’re my bitch this week. 😉 The Captain’s hockey bag is organized and ready, dishes are washed and floors are vacuumed. Tomorrow I tackle the bathrooms and mopping and fold and put away laundry. It’s amazing what happens when I get an hour or two of extra sleep. I’ve also been taking am electrolyte supplement and drinking two liters of water daily. As well as taking my vitamins, walking, and doing cardio on the treadmill.

So here we are heading into the weekend so we’ll see what adventures are in store for my family and I then. Until next weekend, blessings to you with whatever you’re doing and wherever you’re doing it. 💓

This has been my submission to Ash’s Friday’s Feats and Fails at http://www.morethancheeseandbeer.com Please check out how her week went and all the other talent who link up. Smooches to you for being here on my journey. 😘

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One liner Wednesday

Now that my preschooler son and I have completed week one of potty training, we’re on to bigger adventures like navigating trying on underwear. I swear he’s having a fashion show trying on all the pairs. Well life had to continue on as laundry had to get folded and dinner had to get prepared. My son came running out of his room with both legs stuck in one leg hole yelling at the top of his lungs “Mommy help me my underwear is hurting my feelings!”
My son the natural born comedian. 😉

This has been my submission to http://Lindaghill.com. Check out her contribution and all the other talent that link up. Thank you. 💗

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Friday’s Feats and Fails

This week has flown by for me it seems Monday is the longest day of the week, and then I blink and it’s Friday. I’m so happy when it’s family movie night as we stay up laughing and enjoying each other’s company. So it was an eventful week so let’s get to it.

FEAT

The biggest event to happen was my Mad dog started potty training!!! Throughout the month of December I’ve been asking him if he wants to wear underwear or a diaper. Well he’s always chosen a diaper and would occasionally go potty. I let the idea be his as with his SPD (Sensory Processing Disorder) it’s not something I can rush. So Tuesday morning I didn’t ask him and he told me he wanted to wear underwear! I’m so proud of my big boy he’s growing up so fast. 😃❤️

FAIL

Well it’s been a little testy with my kids playing musical beds lately so we all need some sleep. Tempers have been flaring and my Mad dog has learned some words that I didn’t want to hear him say. Nothing like hearing your kid say the word that rhymes with truck in perfect context. 😳 Major parenting fail on my part and I own it. So I’ve been trying to correct that behavior while the Captain giggles in the background.

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*Image used with permission from the sensational Shari at
http://www.sharingwithshari.com*

FEAT

I’ve been writing lots the ideas have just been flowing to me. Taking the blogging 101 classes has been wonderful and I’m finding a lot of great feedback on what I’ve been sharing. I wrote a blog about my surviving Post Partum Depression. It was very hard to write but I had always wanted to tell my story. So I wrote it and saved it as a draft since I was unsure about sharing it. Well I woke up this morning and felt brave and hit the publish button. The response I got back was amazing. I’m so glad I faced my fears and put myself out there to help someone who needed to read that part of my journey. 💗

FAIL

I’ve done zero housework it’s been tough getting anything finished with being on potty alert. So I’ve focused on that and kept up with the laundry and dishes. My kids haven’t been sleeping well so that means I haven’t either. Just as I fall asleep one of them wakes up so we’ve all been short tempered. So now I have to focus on us catching up on those missing zzzz’s and fill up our patience buckets. ❤️

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FEAT

After completing almost all my blogging assignments this week I had some extra time to work on my book draft. I invited my lovely talented friends Loorducation and Imperfect Mom to guest blog for me. I loved having them here to interact with my dear readers and I was also on theirs. I love showcasing different content and reading these incredible ladies stories inspired me. I’ve read so many blogs lately that my books are getting jealous. 😉 I found out this morning that another one of my submissions to the http://www.originalbunkerpunks.com was accepted. I’m feeling so grateful and weepy as it’s on their featured page. I can feel my dear beloved Mama smiling down on me.😊💖🌟

So now it’s the end of the work week so time for another action packed hockey weekend for my family and I. I love seeing my Captain out there playing hard, having fun, and making me proud. 😃💙🎉

This has been my submission to Ash at http://www.morethancheeseandbeer.com. Check out how her week has been and all the other talent that link up. Smooches and hugs. 😘

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I’m the proud recipient of the Very Inspiring blogger award

Happy new year dear readers! As promised here is my follow up on on my nomination of the blogging award. The lovely Mary from http://maryswordsandpictures.com has given me the honour. I love reading Mary’s blog she has a beautiful way of expressing the written word. So there was a list of questions I was to answer and answer them I did! I found the questions to be poignant and thought provoking. So thank you Mary for stretching my old grey matter.

Very Inspiring Blog questions

1.Why did you start your blog?

I started my blog as a creative outlet for myself. I have stacks of writing, journals, and poetry and when I was looking at it all, I thought I wonder if I could put this in a blog? It’s also a very cathartic form of therapy for me.

2. What is the book that you have read that has touched you the most?

Oh there’s so many to choose from as I’ve been an avid reader all my life. The one that stands out for me is The Boy Who Saw True. This was written by an extraordinary man who remained anonymous, and only allowed his diary to be published by his editor Cyril Scott after his death. He was a young clairvoyant as a child, and the book tells his story of his gift. A very fascinating read indeed! As I’m an empath I read this in my 20’s and I finally understood myself after years of searching for answers.

3. If you could eat dinner with a famous person who is still living, whom would you choose?

I would choose Pope Francis, he has set the world on fire with his way of thinking. Not just Catholics, but all walks of life. He has opened the doors of a Catholic Church that’s more accepting to homosexuality, divorced and remarried Catholics, and to common law couples that live together. His quote that he made last year “God is not afraid of new things. We are making every effort to adapt ways and methods … to the changing conditions of society,” he said. “If a person is gay and seeks God and has good will, who am I to judge them?” His mind, heart, and spirit fascinates me. And I believe he is the game changer that the world in crisis, has been needing.

4. Where is the one place you have visited that gives you complete calmness?

That place resides in my meditations when I find my quiet place listening to Deepak Chopra’s calming voice. A physical place would have to be in a beautiful forest walk in Fernie, BC, Canada in my hometown. I hear the rushing water of the Elk River and the kinetic energy it flows with, and I’m at home in my heart. Looking at the mountains moves me to tears and inspires me to write poetry.

5. Are you a bucket list person. If so name one thing on it?

I am a bucket list person and one thing I really want to do is travel to Ireland and Scotland. It’s the land of my ancestors birth and their voices call to me to walk in their footsteps. Celtic blood runs strong in my veins and I love hearing stories of Celtic folklore.

6. What is the goal for your blog?

I honestly just want it to read, shared, and understood. I’m planning on submitting my writing with other websites and freelancing into being paid. I also have book ideas or short novels that I’m going to dust off, edit, and shop around. It’s been my long term goal for awhile, but I’ve had some encouragement from some very wonderful people so I’m going for it!

7. What is a day well spent to you?

A beautiful day would be getting to sleep in, which doesn’t happen very often in my world! I would spend the morning reading and writing then have a fabulous breakfast that went right into lunch. Then I’d pack up a picnic lunch and spend the time exploring with my family. We’ve only been in our new town for six months so there’s lots of places to go adventuring. After that we’d have a fabulous dinner of Italian food, strawberry shortcake for dessert and board games fun until bedtime. I would put my sons to bed with stories, cuddles, and prayers, then I would fall asleep in my loves tender embrace counting our blessings.

8. How do you start your day?

I wake up between 6:30-7:00 am and get my kids ready for school. We have a healthy breakfast, get dressed, and walk to school. After we drop off my oldest than we come back home have some play time and then some reading. We might go off to play group, run errands around town, or go for a walk. Lunch time rolls around and I get some laundry done, and then it’s school pick up time. We love that walk as the sun shines and my kids tell me wonderful things about their day. Play time, quiet time, dinner time, and homework time occupy the evening and then it’s bedtime. If there’s hockey, meetings, or theatre practice than those are all included in the evenings plans.

9. What is your favourite holiday and why?

My favourite holiday is the one that just passed Christmas. I love all the magic that little children are wrapped in when Santa and his elves are busy working away to fulfill their wishes. I love to keep Christ in Christmas as well. If we’re staying home I would make a cake with my kids to celebrate Jesus’ birthday. Every year on Christmas Eve my Mom would read my sister and I the story of baby Jesus’ birth. This is a sacred tradition I carry on today with my own children. I used to attend midnight mass as well as a child, and the joyful memories I have of that are so precious to me.

10. Are you where you want to be professionally and if not, what will you do about it?

I love what I’m doing now with my transcription work. I’m planning on writing more about that soon, as the project I’m helping with is so dear to my heart. Before I had my second child I was teaching prenatal fitness and that encompassed a seventeen year journey of my fitness career. I would love to get back into teaching in some degree. I would need to update my certifications since they have lapsed. As for now I’ll see where my writing adventures will take me.

11. What is your favourite quote?

I love Maya Angelou as a poet and Joseph Campbell as an author. So I have to use them both as my favourites. These both resonate with me.

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

-Mayou Angelou

“Live your bliss for the universe will open doors, where there were only walls.

-Joseph Campbell

Now it’s time to nominate the bloggers that have inspired me. Drumroll please….

1. The Brain

http://howmybrainworks.weebly.com

https://www.facebook.com/Momof4BoysBroken

https://www.facebook.com/adventuresinbooks

I was fortunate enough to guest blog for the beautiful Brain back in October for her Cherish the Moments topic. It was my first time seeing my words on another blog page without being reblogged. I’m still so thrilled and grateful to have that honour. She writes from her heart and her brain is overflowing with wisdom and creativity. Please check out her blog, and both of her Facebook pages that I’m happy to co-admin with her on called the Smell of Books.

2. Sweet pea 2 love

http://sweetpea2love.wordpress.com

This lovely woman has offered me such encouragement and kindness with my life and my writing, I’m so very grateful. When she pops in to read my blog and connect in her loving caring way my heart just soars. A very talented writer who’s fiction made me feel so connected with my beloved Mama. Follow along on her journey you won’t be disappointed.

3. The Heart of Sassy Lassie

http://theheartofsassylassie

https://www.facebook.com/sassylassie1

This lovely Lassie is new to the blogging world and has a Facebook page as well dedicated to her Scottish heritage and providing entertainment. I’ve gotten to know this lovely lassie through her beautiful writing of her heart rendering blog. I look forward to each time she posts and what topic she wants to discuss with her flair and care of the written word.

4. Loorducation

http://Loorducation.com

https://www.facebook.com/loorducation

I’ve been blessed with meeting this incredible Dynamo of a woman. I had the pleasure of being a guest blog spot for her last week. Stay tuned as she will be guest blogging for me soon. She has a Bachelor of Sciences in child studies, majoring in Early Childhood Education and a Masters of Education with a concentration in teaching and learning. I would love for her to be my son’s teacher. As I can feel the love she has for her craft. I love her passion for all things education, creativity, inspiration, and children. She has an amazing blog and Facebook page that’s centred on the power of early childhood education with peace, love, and education, being the focus. While sharing the journey of autism in her family, and the gift that is her son.

5. CS Mommy

http://csmommy.com

I discovered CS Mommy in a blogging group that we belong to and we clicked and became fast friends. She’s primarily a food and beverage blogger but also writes about topics that are important to her. She captured my heart when I read her view on the outcome of controversial shooting that took the world by storm. She’s fun, funny, and a creative genius in the kitchen. Her 25 Holly days posts kept me full and entertained throughout the Christmas season. Be sure to check out her blog and click that Top Mommy Blogger button to raise her up the ranks.

Well that’s my list of nominations, now they have the choice to accept and follow up with answers to the excellent questions which I’ve borrowed from Mary and her nominator Shelby. The rules are simple thank your nominator (which would be me) and then answer the questions then make your own nominations of 5 blogs that inspire you. While displaying the picture of the Inspiring Blogger Award in your post.

Or if you wish to just accept my nomination with a tip of the hat thank you, you can do so as well. Happy new year to these fantastic bloggers and to all my dear readers who light up my life and heart with your kindness. ❤️

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What the poppy means to me

The poppy to me represents freedom. I think of all the men and women, who have fought and sacrificed and continue to do so, for my country. Canada has always symbolized the true, the North, the strong, the free. I think of my Grandpa on Rememberance day and how he enlisted in both the American and the Canadian armies. He was only 17 when he was stationed in Hawaii. Yes, he lied about his age but that’s how desperate he was to see the world. I remember him telling me stories about how he was a boxer there, and was quite good at what he did while he worked on his basic training. Time passed and war came to Europe. By this time my Grandpa was married to my Gram, and my Mom was just a little girl of nine years old. Those 5 years he was away my Gram became an incredible support to my Mom, and to her own siblings. When my Grandpa returned from the war my Mom was a teenager. He didn’t know this young beautiful woman who wanted to put on makeup and go to “picture shows” with her friends. He sacrificed and fought to come home with wounds from shrapnel in his legs. He also suffered with (what I believe was) undiagnosed PTSD and had to find work to support his family. Emotionally and physically, he needed to integrate in their lives after being gone for so long. And over time he did that, and settled on retiring and enjoying his Grandchildren and Great Grandchildren. He spent his free time gardening and telling stories of his time in the army, over a jug of wine on a Saturday night. I remember sitting on the floor at his feet wanting to know more and absorb every detail of his life. This is what the poppy represents to me freedom, pride, lives lost, hope, faith, and love for my country. Every year I proudly recite the poem In Flanders Fields that I learned in school. This historic poem was written in May 1912 by John McRae a Canadian soldier in World War 1. On the eleventh hour, of the eleventh day, of the eleventh month I honour and appreciate the ones that have fought and died for my freedom. I’m proud that my Grandpa was one of those soldiers, thank you for the blessings bestowed upon me. I’m very proud to have my freedom and be Canadian.

“In Flanders Fields” by John McCrae

In Flanders fields the poppies blow Between the crosses, row on row, That mark our place; and in the sky The larks, still bravely singing, fly Scarce heard amid the guns below. We are the Dead. Short days ago We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow, Loved, and were loved, and now we lie In Flanders Fields.
Take up our quarrel with the foe: To you from failing hands we throw The torch; be yours to hold it high. If ye break faith with us who die We shall not sleep, though poppies grow In Flanders Fields.

Written on May 1915.

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